Do You Suffer From False Humility?

There is a thin line between confidence and arrogance.

But there is an even thinner line, between demonstrating your value and a lost opportunity.

To explain what I mean properly, let me share a definition of False Humility, through a recent meeting I had:

I met with a great colleague of mine for coffee a couple of weeks ago – I first started working with this person about 15 years ago on a project called First Class Youth Network with about 20 others, where we were mentoring young people from inner city communities.

This particular project connected over 1000 young people together from Birmingham, who had been virtually written off by society, yet had so much talent. As their slightly older peers from those communities, we decided to come together, give back and help them to realise their talent through entrepreneurship and employment opportunities with the professional services and third sectors.

Anyway, we were discussing our respective journeys since then, and deduced that a strong value that has helped us to succeed, is our humility.

Yet, we both realised that being humble has also resulted in lost opportunity to do more for others – we agreed that humility should not be lost, but at the same time, there is a balance between doing good and ensuring you are evolving and progressing because you are promoting the impacts you have made; the more successful you become, the MORE you can do for others!

My colleague mentioned having a similar discussion with another person, who coined the phrase ‘False Humility’ – the notion of under-playing your own value, in order to please others, regardless of whether they appreciate your value or not.

The real truth, is that you do not have to lose your humility, in order to be clear about what you are good at and the value you can provide for others – you simply need to be able to share WHY you are good at what you do, and WHY you wish to add value through what you do!

So, why is all this relevant to you?

Well:

  • When was the last time that you really analysed the IMPACT that you have created for your customers, and STILL felt inferior?
  • Do you ever feel like you are trying to please others, even when you KNOW they are not appreciating what you can do/offer/provide?
  • When was the last time that you created a story or narrative, that explained your WHY and the impact you have created for others, simply, clearly and in a way that cut through the traffic and social noise?
  • Are you quick to be self-deprecating, rather than stand behind your convictions?

In the words of Marianne Williamson and so eloquently shared by Nelson Mandela, I paraphrase:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure…as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

Being humble is a value and trait you must NEVER lose, as it enables you to stay grounded and focused on providing measurable value for others.

But having false humility really helps no one, least of all your potential customers or you.

Till the next time,

JB.

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Why You Need To Get Out Of Your Own Way!

One of the hardest things to recognise as an entrepreneur, is when YOU are the reason why your business is not moving forward.

Sounds harsh, but it is true!

As the architect of your vision and the source of the solution to the problem you wish to solve, it is natural and correct to put in the hard work needed, to make it happen!

But, this can also be the very reason why you can also become the blockage. Your passion can blind you from the reality of where your business is at, if you do not have the self-awareness to see that all may not be well, or there is much more for you to do.

As a current member of the free Birmingham ESpark Programme, a fantastic accelerator programme who are currently recruiting, I have found myself in this position.

Nearly 15 years of experience as an entrepreneur is great, but i must say that this programme makes you realise that you have not prepared you for the mental, and spiritual shift that it takes to go from someone who (I think!) has done and is doing good things, to someone who is about to #GoDo monumental game-changing things!

I realise that it is easy to become conditioned by your experiences to date, both good and bad, whether you won’t to be or not. It is also easy to assume that you can separate emotion from logic on the spin of a penny!

So how do you learn to ‘get out of your own way’ to open up the opportunities to maximise your potential, as an entrepreneur?

Lose the ego – contrary to popular belief, ego is not a bad thing. According to the Oxford Dictionary, ego means ‘A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance’ – as an entrepreneur, self-esteem is essential to succeed; if you don’t believe in yourself and your idea, then why should anyone else?

But at the same time, you need to be self-aware enough to know when you are allowing your emotions (based on how you view yourself) to tip the balance towards resulting actions that have a negative impact on the business i.e. I have great time management skills, so I’ll do it later…sound familiar?

Embrace vulnerability – linked to ego, vulnerability is often seen as a negative quality. Your ego can encourage you to believe, that vulnerability makes you weak and ineffective.

The reality is that acknowledging vulnerability breeds humility – an acceptance of what you can do, and what you may need to improve on.

As an entrepreneur, this is key to identifying the areas where you need  support from others i.e roles that others are better at doing than you are / they enjoy more, guidance and the benefit from the experience of others such as mentors etc.

Speak to yourself, properly – what happens if you tell yourself, ” I can’t do it, it’s too hard for me, why I am i so stupid?” You start to believe it.

If you tell yourself “I will find a way to..,…I have the potential to achieve ANYTHING I put my mind too!” You start to believe this too!

The brain has a wonderful way of believing what you tell it to believe. The body has a wonderful way of acting in the way that your brain believes and tells it to do. So be mindful of what you say to yourself.

Your thoughts create feelings. Your feelings create actions. Your actions give you the results you deserve.

So think positive…and get out of your way, today!

About Joel:

Joel is an award-winning entrepreneur, speaker and consultant for the professional services sector and universities.

He brings a reality check to the journey of being an entrepreneur, and helps organisations to integrate entrepreneurial thinking into their board level diversity, commercial and CSR strategies.

Amongst other awards, in 2015 Joel was voted as one of the Maserati 100 Top UK Entrepreneurs, for his work in giving back to others.

You can contact Joel online: 

@joelblakeAGP, joelblake@cultiv8solutions.com or visitwww.cultiv8solutions.com

Stay Humble, Keep Winning!

They say there is a fine line between self-confidence and arrogance. I agree with that.

The line between them is the age old notion of Humility ‘the quality of having a modest or lower view of one’s own importance’.

As i travel through the infinite landscape of cyberspace, I seem to be constantly hit by asteroids of arrogant BS from every direction – it seems like humility is fast becoming an underrated trait in life and business.

Marketing who you are and what you do feels like someone has placed a trumpet next to my ear and is blowing it as hard as they can, rather than playing a nice tune that I would be happy to sit back, listen too, and may just convince me to buy the ticket for the main performance!

The worst thing? If we are being honest, we all have been guilty of being that annoying trumpet player, at some point in our lives!

Ever had a time when you thought you could not secure that deal, but you got your head down, made it happen then proclaimed yourself king or queen of the world?

You look at yourself in the mirror, give yourself a wink and then proceed to tell your mom, dad, aunty, uncle, your kids, your cat, your pet parrot ..whoever who would listen, that you are the mutts nuts?!

You get that X-Men Syndrome, like you have extra powers that make you that little bit better than other mere mortals! I guess when times are good, when everything you touch turns to gold, it becomes easier to believe your own hype.

I know I have done that before and then blamed every man and his dog for it all going wrong, until I realised that I had to humble myself and accept responsibility for the results I achieve.

You see, humility in business is essential, because business is all about relationships. People have and people will always buy from people first.

Therefore, it is important to step back and self-reflect on how you are presenting yourself to others – what is your personal brand? How do others see you? What are your key values? Are you living from your values? Are you creating long lasting foundations, to build upon for the future?

Self-awareness and an openness for learning, allows you to grow – it is hard for anyone to maximise their potential WITHOUT having the experience of both good and bad results.

I know that being humble can create a fear within you, of being seen as ‘too soft’ or ‘too wishy-washy’.

But being humble turns your vulnerability into a strength, because it allows you to truly connect with who you are and the purpose that you are focused on achieving. In our business, we help our clients to be real about who they are, so that they can be clear about the social impact they want to create for others.

Being honest with yourself gives you a liberating sense of clarity about how you are able to do what you do and more importantly, why.

Finally, humility gives you a sense of authenticity that attracts others to you. If people are not attracted to you when you are being your real humble self, then maybe they were not the right person or people for you in the first place, and that in itself, is a good thing for everyone.

So next time you see yourself in the mirror, smile at the person looking back at you with a sense of thankful appreciation.

Till the next time, J

3 Reasons Why Change Is Good For You

There will always be times in your life when you have to deal with change, whether you are ready for it or not.

What you have always known becomes your past knowledge, a page in the book of your life and you write a new chapter based on the new things that you learn about yourself through change.

Charles Darwin was correct when he stated that the most strongest are those who are adaptable to change, because change will enable you to evolve through your experiences, through knowledge and give you the confidence and belief to achieve more, if you choose to harness the changes you face, to your advantage.

I know that I have changed as an individual, based on some key life changing moments – ranging from being beaten up once because I apparently ‘was not allowed have friends outside of my own race’ (which was SO narrow-minded and ludicrous), early business failures based on a lack of experience, losing more than 10 family members in the last 15 years, saved by a stranger whilst trying to commit suicide at my lowest ever point…

to..

winning business awards, speaking in front of crowds of more than 3000 people, having personally trained over 600 people as corporate and community mentors, sharing social impact leadership opportunities with International business leaders, I would say that I have both experienced some s**t and have had positive things happen, that have made me stronger!

Every good or bad experience in your life, has the potential to elevate your own level of self-awareness. Negativity can become your motivator for positive change, and being around and learning from other positive people with like-minds can literally change your world, and the world at large.

Maturity has truly helped me to harness and channel my experiences into the world of business – I still have a rebel mentality that likes to disrupt the status quo of Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR), but I genuinely believe that the results of what i do are much better for all who i encounter, both in the boardroom and in wider society.

My company advises corporates on how to measure their financial return on CSR and benefit from integrating social impact into the commercial growth strategies of their business. I have always viewed business as a way of helping to develop society and I was elated to hear Sir Ronald Cohen reiterate this very point, earlier this week by stating the importance of linking social performance with financial returns.

Whether it is in your own life or in business, how things are done will always change – when it does, it makes you much wiser and more equipped to deal with the future.

That being said, managing change is not easy.

But I hope my 3 steps on how I have used change in my own life, may help you:

1) Embrace change as it happens: Fear is a state of mind that can stop you from learning the wonderful lessons that change can teach you. If you choose to embrace change rather than fear it, then fear becomes a benchmark of progress, helping you to acknowledge that fact that you now have new experiences to encounter based on reality.

2) Learn to adapt with change: The lessons you learn from embracing change, will ultimately help you progress through life positively, in an emotional, spiritual and physical way. But you must be prepared to make the sacrifices that you need, to reap the rewards whenever they do decide to appear.

3) Implement a positive action immediately: Change will never make sense to you, if you don’t put it into a positive context and give it the meaning that you feel is both appropriate and beneficial to you and others. Be clear on why you are implementing the positive action and ensure that you are able to communicate the benefit for others effectively, for that provides a foundation for inspiration, motivation and legacy.

We are all different, yet change happens to us all.

So face it, learn from it, then do something new because of it.

Till the next time, J.

 

 

 

How To Turn The Old School Into Social Leaders!

Gandhi famously encouraged humankind to “be the change, that we wish to see in the world!”

This is no different in the world of business.

Traditionally, success is defined through capitalism – In the words of Jay Z, the numbers don’t lie. But like Jay Z, your motivations for making money, are guided by your motivation for starting in the first place.

The more you create and sell, the more you earn. That is the aim of being in business these days..isn’t it?

Nope!

I would wager that CEOs who still strive for the ‘good ole days’ of money making face a daily dilemma – how do they turn their businesses from market driven sheep to social impacting shepherds?

How do they achieve the balance between healthy balance sheets and healthy social good?

I believe that it starts with what I call a Corporate Social Leadership mindset – a way of thinking that places social impact at the very heart of the business, in a way that encourages an inclusive level of self-leadership.

A way of eliminating hierarchy in its traditional sense and creating a culture of mutual respect, both of every individual and every position. An approach that integrates all stakeholders to have a sense of ownership and a sense of purpose within the strategic growth plans of the business.

Cultiv8 Solutions was founded to help businesses benefit from creating more social impact.

Let me share the ethos behind my 12 Step Corporate Social Leadership process, that we use to help CEOs, entrepreneurs and staff to become a social leaders:

1) Create an inclusive vision of the end game – if you give others a sense of ownership of what success will look and feel like, it actually encourages loyalty, trust and respect.

2) Embrace fear – fear is a state of mind where we act as if the negative has or will occur. But fear also provides an intense understanding of reality, that requires action. Without action, fear gets stronger.

3) Speak an inclusive language – listen to the needs of others and be honest in areas where you don’t understand.

4) Build a flexible plan – Business growth is important, but so is the ability to adapt to future social trends and changes as they arise.

5) Be committed – don’ t just talk the talk, walk the walk!

6) Make the necessary sacrifices – success is not a given. You must do what you have to do to, when you have to do it, or stagnation can occur.

7) Learn the lessons you don’t want to be taught – life is like poker, you have to play the hand you are dealt and be willing to learn harsh lessons along the way. Business is no different.

8) Beware of frenemies – suppliers, partners and other ‘allies’ must share the same values as you and you with them, otherwise the foundations of the relationship will crumble away over time. Trust must be earned.

9) Understand that mentoring comes in many guises – having the right support is crucial, but so is having a gut instinct. Not every avenue taken by others, offers you the same destination, so embrace guidance wisely.

10) Be a sponge – you can learn as much from a child who sees the simplicity in all things, to a sage with years of wisdom and experience. Learn what you can, wherever you can, but remember that knowledge is only potential power until you use it!

11) Celebrate successes – forget the stiff-upper lip attitude! It is ok to celebrate your achievements but do it with a sense of humility.

12) Move on – success is limited to what you last achieved. Once a goal has been meet, start again with the next one.

.The more Social Leaders that we can create in key decision making positions, the more sustainable both business and society becomes!

Till the next time, J

What is your PSI level?

You often hear about an organisation doing great things for their local community, their city or their region.

If you listen and look hard enough, you can also find out about global initiatives that are changing lives, such as the ones you that are often mentioned at @CSRWire

But, when was the last time you reflected upon your PSI (Personal Social Impact) level? When was the last time, you stepped outside your own comfort zone and achieved the extraordinary, for the sustainable benefit of others?

Far too often, CSR strategies, policies and programmes are created by individuals who may not care to step into the shoes of the very beneficiaries, that they aim to support – as I work with more clients in the area of CSR, I get more used to seeing that.

Being frank, there are some people who have lived in such a bubble for such a long time, that it has become a steel cage that they have used to protect themselves inside, rather than the dreamy rainbow and light entity that fascinated me as a child!

I know you had the bubble-blower and chased those bubbles till they popped, come on, I know you loved it really!

I digress…people have different experiences and how their life has panned out, is how their life has panned out. You must embrace this fact, to be able to appreciate others from how they see things and support them to view the wider picture – education is not just found in books, it is found inside us all regardless of any differences and that is a beautiful thing.

However, we all have a choice to decide how we wish to support others. We all have the choice to give to others, in ways that enable them to feel empowered enough to succeed!

Your PSI is the level of effort that YOU put in personally, to help achieve more for others – regardless of your role at work, your place in your community, the level of qualifications you have or the amount of resource, you can do something!

Personal Social Impact can be something that you give to your family, your friends, work colleagues or a total stranger – but how?

Here are my top 5 tips to help you increase your own PSI level:

Do something that fulfills you: Human motivation comes from a selfish benefit, good or bad. If you feel fulfilled, then nothing becomes a barrier – rather, the barrier becomes a lesson that you are willing to learn.

Do something that challenges you: If you don’t stretch yourself, then how do you know what your really capable of? Enough said.

Find a reason NOT to have an excuse: Bit of a mental shift here but being solution focused causes you to achieve more faster, instead of identifying all the reasons why you can’t.

Seek constructive criticism: There is a stark difference between feedback and worthy feedback. Constructive criticism should evoke a sense of self-reflection and purpose, not anger and frustration. Which leads me to my final point:

–  Not all your advisors, can give you the advice you need: Learn to see things from the perspective of others, then compare it to your own. Acknowledge where there are differences and more importantly, why they are there..

Increasing PSI is something that we strive for at Cultiv8 Solutions, helping key decision-makes step outside of the norm, in regards to how they approach CSR.

Why not come and take a look at the ways, in which we help key decision makers increase their PSI, through their strategic activities?

Till the next time,

J

Is your social investment, business or personal?

This week has been one of the most emotionally challenging weeks this year.

Three different incidents, three different roller coasters…

  • The first helped me to realise that having a crystal clear vision built on collaboration and a common goal is key, to enable you to overcome any obstacle.
  • The second helped me to realise that faith and hope are two elements of human nature, that both break you and empower you at the same time and that there is a sense of beauty and wonder in that.
  • The third helped me to truly understand my purpose and why I love helping businesses become successful by making sustainable social impacts.

Without boring you with the details of all three incidents, it is fair to say that we live in an unbalanced world – a world full of prejudice, of ignorance, of hate. A world of frustration, highs and lows.

Would you agree, that It takes immense courage to face any negativity and imbalance in this world?

Yet, it is the negativity that forces you to reveal yourself TO yourself. Negativity breeds character and ambition and allows you to see that your difference has a fluctuating level of value, dependant upon different circumstances and experiences, even when they are not your own.

But it also brings a sense of realism and a renewed focus on what your purpose has always been, and that is something that every individual and business should and must embrace, in order to achieve over and above what is expected of you.

So, what has this got to do with CSR?

Everything!

With over 15+ years experience of working with decision makers and in my own personal opinion, personal development is the very foundation of solid CSR practice by any organisation, in any sector.

Social Investment is a complex area, but one where I have built a reputation for the personal development aspect at a senior level – I’m continually fascinated by questions such as how do executives think? Why do they think that way? How does that impact on the strategies they create and the results they achieve? Do they really understand their diverse stakeholders or is it a purely superficial connection?

Questions I welcome, as personal development strips away the notion that the ability to meet social needs is based on academics, rank or class. It forces you to get to the real root cause of oppression and social deprivation. A personal development approach engages you in a self-reflective process that challenges your beliefs, ideals and comfort zone position, in regards to CSR because you, literally, have people’s lives in the palm of your corporate hand – this is the same, whether it’s the decision-maker or teams of staff.

Your vision for social investment for your business must incorporate personal reflection, dealing with personal conflicts and a real understanding of your stakeholders. The trust in any stakeholder relationship must be both earned and respected, built up together between corporate and community for the strategy to work. Finally, we all must look back to where we have come from to know where we are going, as the lessons of history have a lot to teach us for the future.

At Cultiv8 Solutions, we help decision-makers to really step back and look at their social investment aims. We help them to identify both the business and social returns possible, but in an authentic and sustainable way. The strategies that are then created, delivered and measured are then founded on personal relationships and inclusion.

As my nephew likes to tell me, time and time again “I keep it real!”

Do you?

 

 

 

 

Does the system condemn the same community it serves?

I woke this morning to hear that poor Trayvon Martin was unable to get the justice that so many felt that he deserved.

As a black male in society, I felt connected with his story. But I think it is deeper than that.

If you put race to one side, his case opens up various debates, but most certainly the debate on Corporate Social Responsibility, in regards to the system adding value to the community it was designed to serve.

Neither you or I were there on that fateful night, to know what truly happened – was it self-defence or a case of extreme racial profiling? I don’t know, but I know what I’m inclined to think and that worries me if it is true.

Either way, it is a sad day for what it means to be different in a modern day society and reinforces the fact that, we still have a long way to go before we truly harness the power of diversity.

The one thing I am sure off, is that the ‘system’ of law and order is not a clear-cut denominator of truth and justice. It is a becoming a measurement of social conditioning and an indication of just how organisations and institutions are governed, by the emotional perception of leaders and key decision-maker, rather than fact and a true personal understanding of others.

What do the following two examples have in common?:

1) The banking crisis and subsequent financial collapse was started by a lack of good quality governance and down-right greed! Emotional attachment to a visionary ideal of success and wealth by those with the power and access to resources to achieve it, became a controllable monster until the monster became a beast that could not be tamed.

2) The media for years have been accused, hounded and perceived as being a medium that does not equally represent all it’s citizens, for whom they are meant to provide services that reflect all.

The commonality? Simple…both examples have caused society, as an entity, to perceive itself as its own worst enemy.

Both are examples of how we have eroded a sense of trust, of integrity, of community within society. Where once people were beginning to be feel more connected, the very system that we are all apart of, seems to be dividing us once again through actions that empower anger and a need for change.

It is as if we governed and controlled by how you feel when you wake up in the morning, switch on the TV or radio and mentally absorb, before you have even washed the taste of last night’s Merlot out of your mouth, as opposed to, remembering your own values of helping others and what you represent and stand for.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a realist. Everyone has to make sure they take care of what they need to take care of, charity begins at home and all that jazz. I understand that. But, does that also mean that your actions and following results must be built on purely selfish reasons? I think of the young people in the Hot500,who are starting out in business – so many young people in society, have a warped idea of business driven by the media but many also do ‘keep it real’ and function in the reality.

It strikes me that the more time we take to learn more about others before assuming that we know who they are, the more better we can build strategies, laws and a society that eliminates greed and sheer self-interest.

If that can’t be achieved, at least turn greed into a visionary indication of what can be achieved, but achieved in new ways that truly benefit and give justice to all – that is what CSR is all about, is it not?

 

Be An Authentic Shepherd, Not A Fake Sheep!

We spend some much of our lives being influenced by other things – images on TV, the music we listen to, the way in which we have being brought up by our families..the list goes on.

How we are influenced has a significant impact on our decision-making process, and therefore, the results that we achieve in our lives. Not being in control of our response to being influenced, also breeds conformity. Conformity creates a herd mentality that acts as a mental safe zone, which we don’t want to leave. It feels safer to do what everyone else is doing and its safer than ‘the unknown!’.

The problem with conformity is that it erodes our desire to be authentic, staying true to who you are regardless of your life circumstance or situation. When we conform, it is because we have also failed to let go.

Letting go is about accepting yourself, warts and all. Its knowing that you are not perfect and that being perfect is not something you need to strive to be. Letting go is about looking back at your past and understanding that everything that you have gone through in your life, has brought you to where you are today.A real appreciation of all the lessons and experiences that life has given to you, both good and bad, allows you to feel liberated and free, with a clear and intense understanding of your own reality and future opportunities.

So, how do you let go?

You and I both know, that this is not easy.

It is not easy to click your fingers and break the conditioning of how you see and view the world. It is not easy to change the way you do things. Yet, it is essential for your own growth and well-being that you do so.

Here are four things that I hope may help:

Create a compelling vision for yourself: A compelling vision is one that is so clear in your mind, that you can describe the minute detail AND be able to tell somebody else in that level of detail. What will X look like when you achieve it? Who will be there with you? What will it smell like, taste like, feel like?

Be authentic: There is only one of you in the whole entire world, so why try to be anybody else? Even twins are different!

Appreciate the journey of others, whilst being on your own: Humility and a genuine care for others, allows you to see things for what they really are, even when others see or say otherwise. Keep your feet on the ground, rather than try to walk in the air of your own self-importance.

Be confident not arrogant: There is a very thin line between confidence and arrogance – one is because you believe in yourself. The other is because others believe in what you believe about yourself. Choose one.

When you know what you want, why you want it, are clear on your ability to get it and are willing to help others to do the same, you have let go!

Sharing knowledge, experience and helping the next generation is how I let go and I’m doing that through the HOt500 and The DEN

HOW WILL YOU LET GO TODAY?

Till the next time,

J

Is it time to burn your bridges?

Have you ever had to make a decision that you KNOW will affect the rest of your life?

This week, I have had to make such a decision. After 3 and a half years of working for someone else, it became time for me to walk away.

The thing is I had to walk away because it was in part, forced upon me (possible threat of redundancy is never a nice thing for anyone), but also because whilst there were other opportunities that I could have taken on board, I had to decide whether or not I wanted to just exist and not give myself the chance to create the authentic life that I wanted, on my own terms. For me, this situation offered me the chance to walk into the next chapter of my life, the next phase of my existence, one step closer to my destiny.

Yes, it does sound corny and cliched but there is something liberating about knowing that you are in control of what happens next, one way or the other. All the time that I have worked, I have trying to build businesses in my spare time but always blamed life getting in the way of my true ambition.  I had to burn my bridges, or forever be wondering what if.

The feeling of security, whether you’re in a job or a particular situation can often be the thing that stops you from being your authentic self. When you have a certain level of comfortability, you become at ease with everything but you also become complacent and you actually become the one thing that you did not want to be – to be controlled by others. Don’t get me wrong, some people may like to be told what to do and when to do it and there are always a host of external factors to be considered ie family commitments, mortgage / bills to pay, economic climate meaning it is better to keep what you have etc. Life is for living not merely existing – you have the personal power to achieve whatever you want to, and it does mean facing the intense reality of life and being confident in the end vision that you have for yourself.

It is just as easy to allow our minds to create a false sense of security, even when we know we are unhappy. How many times have you heard, “As long as i keep getting my regular salary each month then ill be alright”  How about “Well, he loves me really, he just gets angry sometimes..” or “Better the devil you know!” etc, etc – adopting a victim mentality makes it easier to justify the actions you take and the reasoning behind those actions.

I understand the relevance of all those things, as I’m someone who definitely needs a sense of stability (that’s the taurean in me!) and my focus is always on taking care of my family first, but you have to be honest with yourself.

Ask yourself three key questions:

A) How do i want to grow? B) What do i truly need to do so? C) How can I use my skills and qualities to fuel this growth?

I asked myself these questions, time and time again.

I realised that my reliance on others, was actually limiting my own personal growth. I realised that all i truly need to succeed, is the love and support of family which i already have. As for the third question, I realised that only I can answer that question by facing the future with a sense of faith in myself and a purpose to empower others.

Burning your bridges, gives you the one true opportunity that we all have – to embrace the life that is already waiting for you. You don’t know what will happen, but you know what the alternative is.