There is a special ingredient inside you, that allows you embrace the abnormality that your own journey to success creates.
It is something that only appears, when your back is against the wall and you know that you either have to push on or give up.
That ingredient is resilience.
Resilience enables you to learn the lessons that you don’t wish to be taught. Resilience fuels the motivation and inspiration you need to face challenges, deal with the lows and reality of life/business and be humble when the highs come along.
Resilience forces you to learn more about yourself, your character, your relationships with others and to truly identify what is really important to you.
At age 24, I was in my full-time dream job – I was Birmingham’s leading Mentoring Trainer for corporates who wanted to engage staff in social activity and we also had a baby on the way. Life was great!!
One night I woke up in cold sweats, finding it difficult to sleep. Something was not right and I did not know why.
I went downstairs, found a pen and ending up creating a simple business plan on one side of A4 paper.
Within a two week period, I had left my job, negotiated reduced rent a one-man office, designed my own two page website, made my own business cards using a laminator and card, and was hunting for my first client.
Many said I was crazy, many said it would not work. People said “you are the wrong race, you come from the wrong class, you speak funny, you never went to university so what do you know etc etc” I got it all!
I doubted myself countless amount of times, ended up taking on ‘proper jobs’ on more than one occasion to supplement those Sahara desert months of no income and was a nightmare to live with.
But something inside was always burning away. A feeling of hunger but not for food, a desire to help others but not in a way I could articulate to others. You know that feeling?
I took some time out to really reflect on how I was, who I was becoming and who I really wanted to be. I realised that for me, business was not about the media hype perspective, but more about creating vehicles that help to add value to the personal, social, economic and commercial lives of others.
I learned 2 things about myself during that time, that I would like I share:
1) Your purpose is never about you: we all have something special to contribute to the lives of others and the world. You may already know what your purpose is, but if not, have a think about what truly makes you happy; what gives you that funny happy butterfly feeling whenever you think about it, a bit like when you saw that girl or boy of your dreams and you got all giddy 🙂
I know some days it may be hard to, but you must believe in yourself to realise the power that you have within you, whether it is through a job, a business, family or whatever route you can – no one has the right to stop you from maximising your potential to fulfil your purpose.
That includes you from stopping yourself..
2) Be humble enough to never think you have all the answers, but confident to ask the right questions: life is like poker – you get dealt the cards that you don’t expect, but you must play with those cards whether it is a good hand or not.
Real learning comes through resilience refusing to give up, reminding yourself daily on your big picture, thanking those who try to hold you back for the motivation and staying true to yourself!
Ask the right questions of yourself and of others, but ALWAYS from an authentic, real and genuine perspective – enjoy the ride, but don’t get sucked into the hype!
Like you, there is still a long way ahead before I fulfil my purpose and that’s ok! Life is for living and learning – it’s better to remain its keenest student!
Please feel free to share / comment on what you have learnt or are still learning from not giving up 🙂