We spend some much of our lives being influenced by other things – images on TV, the music we listen to, the way in which we have being brought up by our families..the list goes on.
How we are influenced has a significant impact on our decision-making process, and therefore, the results that we achieve in our lives. Not being in control of our response to being influenced, also breeds conformity. Conformity creates a herd mentality that acts as a mental safe zone, which we don’t want to leave. It feels safer to do what everyone else is doing and its safer than ‘the unknown!’.
The problem with conformity is that it erodes our desire to be authentic, staying true to who you are regardless of your life circumstance or situation. When we conform, it is because we have also failed to let go.
Letting go is about accepting yourself, warts and all. Its knowing that you are not perfect and that being perfect is not something you need to strive to be. Letting go is about looking back at your past and understanding that everything that you have gone through in your life, has brought you to where you are today.A real appreciation of all the lessons and experiences that life has given to you, both good and bad, allows you to feel liberated and free, with a clear and intense understanding of your own reality and future opportunities.
So, how do you let go?
You and I both know, that this is not easy.
It is not easy to click your fingers and break the conditioning of how you see and view the world. It is not easy to change the way you do things. Yet, it is essential for your own growth and well-being that you do so.
Here are four things that I hope may help:
– Create a compelling vision for yourself: A compelling vision is one that is so clear in your mind, that you can describe the minute detail AND be able to tell somebody else in that level of detail. What will X look like when you achieve it? Who will be there with you? What will it smell like, taste like, feel like?
– Be authentic: There is only one of you in the whole entire world, so why try to be anybody else? Even twins are different!
– Appreciate the journey of others, whilst being on your own: Humility and a genuine care for others, allows you to see things for what they really are, even when others see or say otherwise. Keep your feet on the ground, rather than try to walk in the air of your own self-importance.
– Be confident not arrogant: There is a very thin line between confidence and arrogance – one is because you believe in yourself. The other is because others believe in what you believe about yourself. Choose one.
When you know what you want, why you want it, are clear on your ability to get it and are willing to help others to do the same, you have let go!
HOW WILL YOU LET GO TODAY?
Till the next time,