Have you ever had to make a decision that you KNOW will affect the rest of your life?
This week, I have had to make such a decision. After 3 and a half years of working for someone else, it became time for me to walk away.
The thing is I had to walk away because it was in part, forced upon me (possible threat of redundancy is never a nice thing for anyone), but also because whilst there were other opportunities that I could have taken on board, I had to decide whether or not I wanted to just exist and not give myself the chance to create the authentic life that I wanted, on my own terms. For me, this situation offered me the chance to walk into the next chapter of my life, the next phase of my existence, one step closer to my destiny.
Yes, it does sound corny and cliched but there is something liberating about knowing that you are in control of what happens next, one way or the other. All the time that I have worked, I have trying to build businesses in my spare time but always blamed life getting in the way of my true ambition. I had to burn my bridges, or forever be wondering what if.
The feeling of security, whether you’re in a job or a particular situation can often be the thing that stops you from being your authentic self. When you have a certain level of comfortability, you become at ease with everything but you also become complacent and you actually become the one thing that you did not want to be – to be controlled by others. Don’t get me wrong, some people may like to be told what to do and when to do it and there are always a host of external factors to be considered ie family commitments, mortgage / bills to pay, economic climate meaning it is better to keep what you have etc. Life is for living not merely existing – you have the personal power to achieve whatever you want to, and it does mean facing the intense reality of life and being confident in the end vision that you have for yourself.
It is just as easy to allow our minds to create a false sense of security, even when we know we are unhappy. How many times have you heard, “As long as i keep getting my regular salary each month then ill be alright” How about “Well, he loves me really, he just gets angry sometimes..” or “Better the devil you know!” etc, etc – adopting a victim mentality makes it easier to justify the actions you take and the reasoning behind those actions.
I understand the relevance of all those things, as I’m someone who definitely needs a sense of stability (that’s the taurean in me!) and my focus is always on taking care of my family first, but you have to be honest with yourself.
Ask yourself three key questions:
A) How do i want to grow? B) What do i truly need to do so? C) How can I use my skills and qualities to fuel this growth?
I asked myself these questions, time and time again.
I realised that my reliance on others, was actually limiting my own personal growth. I realised that all i truly need to succeed, is the love and support of family which i already have. As for the third question, I realised that only I can answer that question by facing the future with a sense of faith in myself and a purpose to empower others.
Burning your bridges, gives you the one true opportunity that we all have – to embrace the life that is already waiting for you. You don’t know what will happen, but you know what the alternative is.