In last week’s blog, I spoke about the importance of having a clear vision for yourself and your business – the fact that they are interrelated is no accident, yet so often; it is easy to act as if they are not.
As entrepreneurs / small business owners, we all have the proverbial game face that we like to put on to ‘prove’ that everything is alright. Yes, that face, you know what I mean…
It’s that face we have, when the lights come on, the show starts!
We turn into SuperBiz, the non-gender specific superhero that likes to appear at networking events or meetings with a stack of business cards, ready to change the world and make a lot of money at the same time. In reality, we become the self-conscious idiot that everyone sees a mile coming, and only tolerates now, so they don’t have to deal with you, later!!
The REAL reality is that the best way to connect your authentic self to your business, and therefore get your life in balance, is to:
STEP 3: SET YOUR STANDARD
If you desire excellence in your life, you have to think, act and operate with excellence.
There is no room for half-stepping with this. To maximise your potential, both personally and professionally, you must set your own standard ON YOUR OWN TERMS. In this way, you know who you wish to have in your life, connected to your business, part of your network etc.
Your standard could be your peers having the same values, the same way of thinking or just someone that just ‘gets you’ instantly! Your standard is the level that you strive to maintain (and I say strive, because life will test you!) in order to create excellence in all that you do. Set your standard, live by it and see what happens.
STEP 4: A.C.E. YOUR FEARS
Fear is a state of mind, created by a belief in what you believe, is to come. False Expectation As Reality – that is my own little definition of fear and you can have that for free!
In the words of Robert Greene in his co-authored book The 50th Law, with Curtis Jackson (aka 50 Cent), “…fear is a kind of prison that confines you within a limited range of action. The less you fear, the more power you will have and the more fully you will live”.
But how do you eradicate fear?
The key is not to try and eradicate fear – better to embrace it and learn from it:
ACKNOWLEDGE that you are fearful (or your mind is telling you that you are) is the first step. Trying to hide away from the ‘fear’, does nothing but compound your psychological interest in it.
CONSIDER why this ‘fear’ is a negative for you – what are the consequences of taking action to deal with it? What are the consequences of not dealing with it?
EVIDENCE of your ‘fear’ is crucial. If you have evidence that your ‘fear’ is true, then you have the information that you need to deal with it. If there is no evidence but just your thoughts and own perceptions, then you know that there is nothing to ‘fear’.
As small business owners, working with your peers can help to eliminate your fears and help you to set the standard for yourself and your business. In The DEN, we provide a safe space where small business owners can achieve that and more, together and gain practical support on the actions that you take.
Find out more at www.denmembersclub.co.uk
Till the next time, J
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